Type 3 - ★Ignorance type mother: Easy to develop the seek-after type children★
Mothers’ manifestation: Due to busyness or their personalities, some mothers appear to be impatient or always reveal this aspect of their personalities. They always want to be relieved from the burden of bringing up their children. Therefore they encourage, even force, their children to start exploring the world and to become independent way too early.

Mentality of children: When young children try to explore the world independently, they will easily develop the fear for independence if they do not have the sentimental support from their parents. The know how to play a good kid through pleasing their mothers, or to find all the excuses to win the attention of their mothers. They lack the necessary sense of security, and fear to be away from their mothers; they need to confirm constantly to find out if anybody cares for them.

The vexation of growth: These children will usually appear to have seek-after type personality when they have grown up. They fear to be abandoned, and always try to please their spouses to maintain an intimate relationship with them. They will do whatever they can to become a good wife and good mother (or all-good husband). However, this kind of relationship will make the spouse feel suffocated; they always find that they fail to please their spouse however hard they have tried, and secretly feel hurt or sigh that “life is so tiring”.

Upbringing EQ: Besides being educated, children need to be developed. Mothers need substantial patience and sufficient time to develop their children’s positive thinking and self-confidence. It looks like that there is no short-cut for this aspect of children upbringing!