Parents will utilize different ways teach their children which based on the personality and character of their child. Some parents would like to know whether they have used the suitable mediums to educate the children or not. May be we don't know what is the suitable one, but we have to understand what we don't have to do.

Speaking simply, punishment is comparatively not the most unsuitable method to teach children. I said, "comparatively", that is because it is not absolutely, especially punishment could help to stop the unsuitable behaviours. Actually, we never support the punishment. Even the behaviours of the verbal or physical insulting and blaming could not be accepted whatever the situation is. The typical examples of verbal insulting are "How stupid you are?", "You are not my son or daughter". More awful are: "Go to hell" and "Health is better than the old barbecued children born". Only if we had a joke would the last one wording be accepted.

Firstly, the behaviour has been altered as a result of fearing punishment, but they have really not understand or altering the behaviours wholeheartedly. Moreover, the punishment and the verbal insulting will implant to the brain, it's possible to engender the riffle effect. We couldn't predict anything at this moment, but composing a problem from the concept change to thinking, and fixed to be the future behaviours probably.

Most of the parents understand the blaming or punishment would not contribute to solve the problem, and they could follow the rule, not to adopt the verbal or physical punishment, whatever, whenever they are.

The parents do yet present or demonstrate the blaming or insulting in front of the children intentionally or unintentionally. A couple argues and blames each other when some parents have lost temper. Inevitably, if the children saw or heard that, they will scare and the negative association will be linked up. The reason is you are teaching some behavior to your children, and they learn the behaviours in their daily life simultaneously. Therefore, no more negative behaviours to teach your children or present in your daily life.

Eddy

Registered Counsellor